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The Third Party
Frequently, I get calls from the third party (“the other woman”) looking for a therapist not for herself but for her partner. You want him to make a decision because all this secrecy and not being able to plan for the future is making you feel anxious and out of control. Maybe you should give me a call for you to decide what you want. Therapy can provide a space for you to talk about all of this. It can be hard to find a sympathetic ear. The relationship is secret; and frankly, most people’s reaction is that you should just leave him because he’s married. … Read more…
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The Unfaithful Husband
If you had the extramarital affair, you may be relieved that it’s out but feel racked with guilt about hurting someone you do care about. You may be wondering if your spouse can ever move beyond this or if it will always be something held over you. You probably do not know what to do about the intensity of your partner’s anger, particularly when it keeps coming up over and over again. Will you be in the dog house forever? In fact, you may be saying things that are digging you deeper into the hole. When you say, “But I don’t love… Read more…
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The Betrayed Wife
You always thought that you would just leave if you were ever cheated on. You’re a strong woman after all. But here you are. Your world has been turned upside down, but you aren’t so sure leaving is the right answer. You are feeling like a fool and are humiliated. To move past the affair and hurt you are going to need to know why his affair happened. Yes, it was wrong of your husband to cheat on you. There were other options. Having said that, in order for counseling to be successful, we will look at the dynamics of your relationship that… Read more…
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My Tips in Huff Post Article: Moving on After an Affair
As some of you know, I am the author of two books on infidelity: Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? and After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife. I was recently quoted in the Huffington Post as an expert on affairs in marriage. Everything You Need To Know About Moving On After An Affair by Brittany Wong Associate Divorce Editor, The Huffington Post Moving on with your life after you’ve been cheated on can feel like an impossible task — especially if your S.O. decides to stay with his or… Read more…