You always thought that you would just leave if you were ever cheated on.  You’re a strong woman after all.  But here you are.  Your world has been turned upside down, but you aren’t so sure leaving is the right answer.  You are feeling like a fool and are humiliated.

To move past the affair and hurt you are going to need to know why his affair happened. Yes, it was wrong of your husband to cheat on you. There were other options. Having said that, in order for counseling to be successful, we will look at the dynamics of your relationship that made it vulnerable to an affair.  To use an example: if your house got robbed, it is the robbers fault-but wouldn’t you want to make sure the doors were locked next time you left the house?  My two books, Blindsided by His Betrayal and Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? might be a good start for you.