Frequently, I get calls from the third party (“the other woman”) looking for a therapist not for herself but for her partner. You want him to make a decision because all this secrecy and not being able to plan for the future is making you feel anxious and out of control.

Maybe you should give me a call for you to decide what you want. Therapy can provide a space for you to talk about all of this.  It can be hard to find a sympathetic ear.  The relationship is secret; and frankly, most people’s reaction is that you should just leave him because he’s married.  But it isn’t that simple, is it?  Come and talk to me about what you are going through and how you can get some of your power back. I’m not here to judge you.